So if youve noticed that your avoidant partner is becoming emotionally available, its a big sign they love you. Stop any and all forms of direct communication with your ex So, theyre definitely not the type to commit easily, and they sometimes end up hurting others when they want to hide their true selves from them. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and Ive spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. At core, people with fearful-avoidant personalities are suffering from relationship insecurityan instilled belief that people in your life are going to reject or leave you, just like your earliest caregivers or loved ones did. //